An internet user named Zoya Rehman penned down her heartbreaking observation where married women are being judged and mocked by the feminists of Pakistani society.
Apart from being a partner, Zoya is also a feminist researcher and writer who is interested in pop culture, digital spaces, and critical legal studies.
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Zoya reached out to her Twitter handle and wrote in a series of threads that how society makes it difficult for not only unmarried but also married women and their choices.
She said that people who think that making fun of married women isn’t considered bad then they are wrong and instead of criticizing women and their life partners, it is better to find faults with the marriage institutions.
perpetually making fun of married women really isn’t the feminist flex some people think it is. criticize the institution of marriage all you want but please don’t further your internalized misogyny under the garb of a “feminist critique” when all you focus on is women’s choices.
— Zoya Rehman (@pind_wave) October 7, 2021
Further, she unfolds how many patriarchal bargains a woman has to do in Pakistan through marriage.
Therefore, constantly criticizing women for being happy feels disgusting just like how people poked fun at the ones who couldn’t find a partner.
In another post, she questioned the politics being practiced by all the so-called feminists who are unhappy with women living a happy married life.
want to criticize monogamy? go ahead. talk about the patriarchal bargains women have to make in pakistan through marriage? 100% true. but constantly shitting on women who are happy and in love with their partners (which is why they haven’t left them so far) is just disgusting.
— Zoya Rehman (@pind_wave) October 7, 2021
She added that most of the time women are trying to prove their feminism by performing ingrained sexist stereotypes.
Concluding her tweet, Zoya cheered all the unmarried women saying that though living isn’t that easy in Pakistan especially they should never feel ‘left out’ for making different choices.
Replying to Zoya, an internet user agreed with her adding that criticizing an unmarried woman or a happily married woman is considered as ‘wrong’.
more power to unmarried women. it’s not easy being unmarried/single in pakistan. married women DO have state protections to rely on. but you’re not better by being shitty towards women who have made different choices; you’re just like everyone else.
— Zoya Rehman (@pind_wave) October 7, 2021